Walking Through Your Fears Of The Unknown To Achieve Personal Fulfillment

The fear of the unknown is terrifying, which causes you to avoid making changes. Avoiding failure keeps you in your comfort zone. There isn’t much risk involved when you follow a daily routine that has worked for many years. Sitting in your comfort is familiar, making it easier to control your environment and tends to be less stressful. But sitting in this spot for too long has its own consequences.

Walking into the dark tunnel of the unknown can be scary, but once you walk through, the light at the other end can be transformational for your life. Fear makes us second guess our next moves and hinders us from making significant life changes. There are times when we want to break free from the chains and take an uncalculated risk, but we let our insecurities, triggers, fear, and pride get in the way.

I have always admired the spontaneous dreamers that go after what they want regardless of what might happen next. They don’t have a map, a spreadsheet, or a planner; they go for whatever their heart desires and hopes for the best outcomes. All I ever wanted to do is cast away my fears and roam through life as free as a bird. Since I can’t foresee my future, I have tried to control my life as much as possible by avoiding betting against all odds regarding my life circumstances.

Working in Finance for many years turned me into an analytical, structured, and critical individual. Any changes to my daily routine would throw me off course instantly. I always needed to know what and how I was going to do something before I did it. My mind would go insane if I couldn’t precisely calculate the outcomes. When I didn't have control, I feared what was to come.

Two plus two will always equal four, which is something that my mind can grasp and understand. What I will never know is if I will ever find a husband? Get married? Have kids? Will my writings be successful? When will I get that call about something happening to my parents? How long do I have to live on this earth? Ok, I just went super deep! There are no straight answers to these questions, and I have to keep pushing through life, never knowing until it happens.

Whenever I worked up the nerve to try something new, I always thought it would turn out with the worst possible scenario. I had a hard time believing in myself and my worth which caused me to stay in my comfort zone as much as possible. Anytime something did go wrong, I would say, “SEE, that’s why you shouldn’t have done it in the first place.”

Instead, I should have been proud that I took those first steps towards something I’d never done before. I was able to gain that experience, and from then on, I know what I can do differently. When you feed negativity, you receive negativity; therefore, everything you perceive will be negative. I was so used to old outcomes and past experiences that I became trapped in my own web of fatalistic thoughts.

I found that staying optimistic is the best way to maneuver through fears of the unknown. Even things we think are negative can positively benefit us. There is always a lesson behind every circumstance.

You may never know your true capabilities if you don’t take chances and go for it. Yes, it might be scary at first. No, you don’t know what will happen. But sitting in familiarity will keep you in stuck energy for the rest of your life. Staying comfortable can cause more stress, increase anxiety and depression, make you isolate yourself, and it might make you remain in situations that no longer serve you.

Being open to vulnerability will allow you to expose yourself to different situations that can truly benefit your well-being. It can open doors to new relationships, friendships, career options, and more. You don’t want to get to the age where you look back and think about what you could have done when you can do it right now.

I learned that coming up with excuses only prolongs your journey forward. The illusions that you are making up in your head are not real! I would ask myself, “what’s the worst that can happen?” You make a mistake, or it doesn’t work out the way that you planned.

Now you make your tweaks and do it again and again until it turns out to be successful. Even if it’s not successful, you can say that you tried, accept failures, and then move towards another goal. You won’t be able to control the outcomes, but you can trust yourself, embrace change, stay positive, and ride through the scary, dark tunnel of the unknown. You’ve got this!

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